White Privilege and Early Parenting: Part 1 – 8 Ways my White Privilege served me in pregnancy and early parenting

The two main things I want to do here is to firstly acknowledge my white privilege and how that has and is assisting in my parenting endeavours – which is this article. Secondly, I found a parallel between my early parenting attitudes and attitudes I see when white privilege is raised (find here).

Before I start, I want to acknowledge that as a white person I can only speak on white privilege (as in, it is not my place to speak on Black issues). I own my experiences, attitudes and behaviours. Including any and all racist ones. As well as the micro and/or macro agressions. It is my responsibility to educate myself, and do better. I have no knowledge of life as a POC but I hear and value their voices and perspectives.

8 Ways my White Privilege has served me in my early parenting journey so far…

    1. Advertisements and products selling family planning services and items such as information books and workshops, pregnancy / ovulation / sperm tests, birthing options etc display people that look like me (are predominately white).
    2. Key care providers, at every single stage of preconception to conception to prenatal care to birthing to postnatal care looked like me. And they sounded like me.
    3. Information was available in a language and dialect that I was fluent in, and have spoken since birth. Information was available that took into account my world view and perspective on life and birth and such
    4. I am affluent. I had birthing and care options. I planned a birth that included financial investment – that I am more likely to have access to, as a white person. Also my affluence ensured I have access to a healthier lifestyle, as well as wonderful pre and post natal care. I could afford vitamins, supplements and therapies to reduce stress. Pregnancy is hard, and my affluence made it emotionally, physically and mentally less taxing.
    5. I was assumed to be an educated, intelligent woman in a meaningful relationship, making a valid life choice to have a child.
    6. My challenges to the hospital policies and protocols were accommodated. That’s a big deal.
    7. During any of my postnatal freak-outs or breakdowns (and there’s been a decent few), I sought help. I knew of agencies to help. I knew of services to keep searching for, in order to get help. Despite my emotional / mental state – although being concerning at times for both me and the professionals working with me – I never had a fear that my child would be taken away from me. It was seen as a tough time, and I needed resources and help.
    8. I didn’t die during childbirth. My child didn’t die during childbirth (WOC are around 3-4x more likely to die or loose their baby during childbirth source herehere,  and here) Read stories about Black mumma’s deaths herehereherehere, and here [Tragically, there is so many more stories and experiences 😥 Please read some. Awareness matters!]

 

 

What other ways can you think of, that white privilege impacted my (or your) pregnancy, birth and early parenting days?

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4 thoughts on “White Privilege and Early Parenting: Part 1 – 8 Ways my White Privilege served me in pregnancy and early parenting

  1. I’ve noticed that if one is “Susan, in bed 4” instead of “Lin, over there” one is far more likely to be taken seriously. From simple things, like “May I have some water?” to “I am feeling a tremendous amount of pain” – this IS a difference. I’m glad you’ve brought this up – it’s something that I think we all need to to be more aware of. POC are treated better than they were, but still not equal to non POCs. It’s kind of weird – we’re all humans.

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    1. I read somewhere that something ridiculous like 97% of medical providers underestimated the pain and symptoms experienced by POC – literally not believing the patient in front of you! And ABSOLUTELY with the underhanded language differences!! That’s epic implicit bias! I can understand why people are dying.
      Thanks for stopping by.

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